If you grew up in a toxic family, chances are you were taught that boundaries are cold, selfish, or even cruel. Maybe you were told to “be nice” when someone crossed a line. Maybe you learned to apologize for simply having needs. Or maybe, like so many of us, you became a master at people-pleasing, hoping if you just earned love hard enough, it would finally feel safe. This one’s for you. This is a love letter to the child inside you who was taught that self-abandonment was noble.…